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One of the most painful experiences you wouldn't ever want to encounter as a person is when you are trying your best to succeed in life, while there is still that person who is wishing for your downfall. Maybe you may not have come across anyone like that in your life, but that must not make you feel they are not there. They are very close to you, but in sheep's clothing, pretending and showing love. How would you be able to identify these kinds of people?
My Short Story
I have personally come across a lot of fake people in my life. You know, sometimes, naturally, a person may like you, and some others won't click with you. I am a testimony to this incident.
I still remember vividly my own story, where the money my aunt had wanted to use to foot my BECE bills so I could write my papers was stolen by a cousin of mine who detested the fact that I would be moving on to the next chapter of my life. Years later, in the university, I recall a friend of mine who submitted a letter to the company I was supposed to do my internship at, so I could not. The reason being that there were opportunities at the company, and I benefiting was something she didn't want to happen.
People do all these things. They will be in your life, but you won't know them because they are full of pretense.
Here is how to catch on and know these types of people.
Identifying people who secretly wish your downfall is not always that easy. They are the kinds that can be smiling at you, sometimes offering you support in public, and even go on to act as if they are proud of your progress, but as you know already, their actions will eventually show you who they are. Below are some signs to help you spot individual people in your life who do not want your progress, and you have to refrain from.
1. They are people who are not really proud of your achievements
For this group of people, when you share good news with them about a success you have made, they do not really celebrate with you because of envy and jealousy, so they minimize it. They usually say things like, "That is not a big deal" or "Anyone could have done that". The moment you notice signs, you have to be careful. They will probably be looking for ways and means to shrink your success.
2. They often refrain from supporting you in achieving your goals
If you know of anyone around you who always gives you an excuse to not show you support when you are fighting for a purpose, take note. Be it that you are looking for money to go to school, or funds to start a business for your survival, and you know very well the person has it but does not want to help, you have to be careful when in the midst of such a person.
3. People who appear only when you fail
Notice the people who suddenly make themself available when something wrong happens. They are not there to even help you or encourage you, they are present to make themself feel better because that is what makes them feel better in their own lives.
4. They see you as a competition and an enemy to their progress.
People who may want to see your downfall see you as competition in their lives. As a result of this, they express bad energy towards and dislike you naturally without fault.
5. They say and spread negativity about you
Imagine having an issue where you were right and not at fault. Someone who is against your progress wouldn't say the truth to other people; rather, they spread negativity about you. You might say something positive at the end of the day, but they will say it in the opposite way to make you feel bad.
6. They gossip about you behind your back
People who don't wish you well often talk about you behind your back. They gossip among other colleagues, only to damage your reputation. They are people who share your struggles and twist your good deeds.
7. They are never happy for you
Body language is something about these people that you have to watch carefully when you succeed. Their energy around you will drop; they will not give you a genuine smile. They might be faking their joy, but watch them carefully, and you will catch on.
8. They always question the steps you take in life.
When you have someone around you who always discourages the dreams you have, doubts your decisions, and undermines your plans, it is because that person doesn't want you to move on or become greater than them. They will always question your steps in life, asking you questions so they can find out more about your progress.
9. They will sing praises to you just to stay close to you.
People who constantly praise you excessively just to win your trust are part of those people who do not want you to climb the success ladder. They will praise you today, and another day, you will see them sabotaging you. Identify their actions and pair with their words; it doesn't tally, refrain from them.
10. They get uncomfortable with your confidence.
Another sign to note about people who want nothing about your progress is those who feel uncomfortable when you tell them of your confidence to achieve something. They begin to show you signs that will discourage you and say things that will keep you in one place.
11. They pretend to give you advice, but in the end, plant doubt
Fake people will often pretend to offer you advice, but in the end, they make sure the advice they offer you discourages you. You should look out for questions like, "Are you sure you can handle that?" or "That sounds risky?". That is the type of question they will be asking you, even after they give you advice.
12. They keep tabs on you secretly
Some people will never like your success openly. This one is a deep truth that you would be shocked by after realizing. They quietly monitor your life, checking your updates and stories, and always asking others about you. It isn't that they want your interest or wish good for you; it is just envy.
13. They try to turn others against you
If there is a person around you who is continuously tarnishing your image in the eyes of people, their aim is to create a division between you and people who might likely want to help you. They do not wish you to move on in life and try to isolate you from people who will want to help you.
14. They are not happy when you succeed in life
When you become successful in various aspects of your life, this group of people pulls away from you. All is because your success reminds them of how stagnant they are, and envy being in your place.
15. They mock your ambitions.
They laugh when you share your dreams with them. They call you names and compare you to others who failed. They do that to make you give up and stop pursuing your goals. They are the kind of people who have no love for the good things you want to go after in life.
What You Should Do When You Catch On.
The moment you catch on to these people, there are a few things you have to do:
- Do not confront such people with anger; just stay calm and gradually refrain from them. Remember, you do not have to fight everyone who wrongs you. You just have to walk away, and that is perfect.
- Keep the plans you have a secret from yourself. Everyone must not know your dreams, so do not even tell them anything about you again.
- Do not let them get too close to you.
- Forgive them, but always remember, because having that memory alive is to keep yourself from repeating the same mistakes again.
- Some things are spiritual, so you have to keep your faith and your intentions pure.
- The best revenge against success is to succeed, so make sure you succeed. Otherwise, you will just be mocked at.
How About How to Catch On To People Who Want You To Succeed
To know people who want you to succeed in life, look at the following points I have provided below.
- People who want you to succeed will share useful information with you as well as opportunities.
- They encourage you and keep you going even when you are struggling
- When you succeed in life, they celebrate with you and cheer you on.
- They make sure you are corrected and put you in the right lane when you seem off character.
- They speak well of you in a room where you are not in. Not gossips that dim your shine.
- People who want you to succeed will defend you when others speak ill of you. They won't join the conversation.
- They are people who see your potential, they good things you are capable of doing even when you don't.
- They pray for you and wish well for you, not hatred and ill wishes.
- When you are going through difficult times, they stand with you through the storm.
- They try their best to remind you of how far you've come and where you can go.
- As they are moving on in life, they move with you; they are not against you.
How To Keep People Who Want You To Progress
To keep people who want you to progress in your life, learn to do the following.
- Appreciate them openly
- Be loyal and be honest with them
- Keep them close to you, but always remember to respect their space.
- Do not show behaviours that will make them draw away from you.
- Show them support when they need your help.
